with Courtney Slazinik
Letters to Our Children – October 2013

I love writing these letters to my girls. The thought of them looking back on these one day and hopefully taking some of it to heart warms my heart. Follow through the circle to read the other letters and see their images. Check out the letter from MaryJane from the Photog Mommie next.


Dear girls,

There are a lot of negative and angry people who want to bring you down. You will eventually learn the saying “Misery loves company”. The key is learning to smile, wave and move on from these people without letting them steal a piece of your joy.

I recently read a post about the The Law of the Garbage Truck. It is spot on! Basically, it is saying that some people carry a lot of garbage around and are looking for people to dump it on. Instead of getting angry and continuing the cycle of looking for someone to now dump your garbage on, smile, wave and move on.

For example, there are a lot of people who want to dump their garbage on you when driving. I know I get honked at A LOT. It’s not because I’m a bad driver or doing anything wrong, instead people don’t think I’m driving fast enough or moving fast enough for them. Don’t let it bother you. Smile, wave and move on.

What is the point of throwing your hands in the air and yelling at them as they drive by? Is it going to change the way they drive? Will it make them come to their senses and realize they shouldn’t have honked at you? No. I promise you it’s not. It is only going to make you angry as well.

Don’t let other people bring you down. Smile, wave, and move on. Seriously.

You will be a lot happier if you focus on the positive.

Maybe the reason that person is honking and in such a hurry is because they are on their way to the hospital because a loved one is hurt or sick.

Maybe they just got fired from their job.

Maybe they received some terrible news and don’t know how to handle it.

You don’t know their story.

You don’t know what makes them do the things they do. You don’t know why they want to dumb their garbage on you.

The three of you are full of so much joy and happiness. Don’t allow anyone, and I mean anyone take that from you!

Just smile, wave, and move on.


  • October 30, 2013 at 4:10 PM

    Wow, Courtney! This is right on time for me. Seriously. Wow. Just what i needed to read!!! :)

  • kat
    October 30, 2013 at 9:07 PM

    amazing and perfect advice.

  • Jen
    October 31, 2013 at 1:04 AM

    What perfect advice! It’s hard to shake off the negativity when people are rude like that, but so not worth the energy like you said. Your girls are lucky to have a happy, positive mommy! :) Claire is getting so big!

  • October 31, 2013 at 10:18 AM

    WOW, this is beautiful advice to your girls!! …and beautiful advice for me ;) thank you!

  • October 31, 2013 at 5:58 PM

    Such a sweet letter and great advice! I needed to hear this – we ALL do! And I get honked at too, glad I’m not the only one. ;-)

  • November 19, 2013 at 7:17 AM

    This is such a beautiful thing you are doing for the girls. One day they can look back on this with fondness.

  • Ivy
    February 19, 2014 at 10:58 AM

    I’m so glad I stopped by to read this post. Truly inspiring and I love how you wrote from the heart! They will definitely know that Mommy loves them and will cherish your words of wisdom. I think I’m gonna it this way. I was blogging during our adoptions but that got to be too much and with technology changing every year, why not just type it all up and make my own album! Thank you Courtney.

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